Are you fed up with googling adult diapers in your quest for the best deals on incontinence products and instead, coming up with page after page of unhelpful links to AB/DL (Adult Babies/Diaper Lovers) sites?   I have been frustrated by this experience since I purposely try to avoid the murky places the internet is more than willing to take me.   You know – “as a man thinketh in his heart” and all that spiritual stuff.   I find that when dealing with life’s normal and sometimes abundant adversities, it is important to keep my mind in healthy places.   I would prefer to not be constantly confronted with the need to sort between good or dubious material. The constant demand is tiring.

That being said, the other day I finally decided to hit a you-tube link to a syndicated talk show featuring Adult Babies and Diaper Lovers.   My rationale was that this show had been broadcast on regular television so how perverse could it be?   Despite the obvious holes in my logic, I was neither horrified nor titillated by the outcome.   The video portrayed an attractive young woman admitting to secretly enjoying wearing babyish clothes and adult diapers.   She had done so since the age of six when she started sneaking nappies from relatives’ diaper bags or spending her allowance on them at the drugstore.   She explained that this wasn’t in any way a sexual thing for her; it was a way to shed stress and be comforted.   She claimed also to not have suffered any childhood trauma that made her seek out this pastime.   Next her boyfriend was asked how he felt about it when he first learned of this quirk.   He answered he was OK with it because “I know everybody’s strange.”   Fair enough.

So then what was to be a brief you-tube foray took on a research life of its own.   In the process, I learned a lot and dispelled some preconceived notions.   Infantilism is the clinical term for the fascinations or fetishes of the adult baby or diaper lover.   It does not appear to be a mental disorder according to a large body of opinion neither, in most cases, is its behavior claimed to be tied to sexual gratification.   Sexual activity is very often kept separate from the fetish.   The majority of AB/DL discussion and social groups make a point of rejecting pedophiles.

The predominant theme among these people is the seeking of comfort and child-like happiness through the props of early childhood.   Baby play and falling asleep in oversized cribs (I do wonder what the carpenters think when they get these orders) is offered by discreet adult nurseries in some parts of the country.   The nuts and bolts of the diaper wearing aspect often do not include wetting or soiling the diaper.   There appears to be a very practical side to the average AB/DL.   Clean up is a real issue for them, some claiming to find it too difficult to release even their bladder when wearing adult diapera.   But yes, there are those who do enjoy having their adult diapers changed by an interested party.

After giving the basic philosophy of this fetish some thought, I would have to say that I can relate to a desire to relinquish responsibility and control.   The concept does have its appeal; grown up life is complicated.   On the other hand, I have to admit that visiting a website that posts photos of a hairy man sitting in a bubble bath and sucking on a giant pacifier does not take me where I want to go.   From now on, I am sticking to the adult diapers links that are clearly meant for incontinence care.